Am dating a man going through divorce
I was visiting my hometown for a weekend and he was visiting a local bar, thanks to the very persuasive powers of his friends and family.I was already a few drinks deep and he wasn’t far behind, but we struck up a conversation and danced like the drunken buffoons we were and, at the end of the night, exchanged numbers.Even though his marriage was nearing its end and he was no longer love with his estranged wife, he would always love her.Through the anger and disappointment and every bitter feeling in between, he would have a spot in his heart carved out specifically for her. And there wasn’t a single thing I could do or hopeful wish I could make, that could possibly erase her from his history.How can you combat your feelings of insecurity and work through this challenging time?If you’re involved with someone who’s going through a divorce (or will be), you need to be ready for the roller coaster ride.
And being able to be empathetic and compassionate toward both of you is key. It basically describes what we’re all striving to be in our lives, and that’s WITHOUT the added trigger of your man being a nut as he goes through his divorce, and the anxiety you feel about whether or not this will all work out in your favor!He says he needs his space and he is up and down with his emotions. Let him talk and let him settle his business and give him his space without pressure and guilt. I do indeed feel that he is backing out of the relationship --tonight when he texted me he used my first name and not the usual "sweetie". Take deep breaths and allow yourself to cry for awhile. If you take care of yourself, you will be stronger and can better handle what happens in the future.I am deeply sadened and feel I've done something to cause him to want to end this relationship. I would think he is going through reality phase of a very difficult time. Lovingly give him his space and let him work his man thing out. We have hardly spoken since returning from a vacation that ended with him cancelling our valentines plans. For example, if he needs someone to talk to, he may just turn to you again. Well it has been a week since my relationship ended and I am still crying.Any stalling, or worse, attempts at reconciliation are red lights for you to put a stop to seeing him until he is officially, legally single. If so, that tells you that he is willing to work on disagreements as well as letting you know that the divorce was not a rash decision.If he cannot or will not follow through on this, what kind of follow through will he have in regards to his commitment to you? Does he acknowledge his role in the marriage falling apart? If he says phrases like, "I'm not perfect" or "I really tried," take these as cues that his relationship with you will also feature him making an effort when needed.